Fitting In while Standing Out

When I was in grade one, I wore costumes to school. One day I'd be a ballerina, the next, Michael Jackson. I LOVED playing dressing up. I don't remember the last day I wore a costume to class, but it happened, as expected. Somewhere between kindergarten and high school, I learned that people don't do… Continue reading Fitting In while Standing Out


How’s Ruby?

She's great! Over the past month or so, she was sedated again to check her eye pressure, had house visits from her new vision coach Janet, and went for another ultrasound with our nephrology team. On top of that, her little personality is developing more and more each day. She's very happy and content, smiling and laughing… Continue reading How’s Ruby?

Our Normal

Normal is a word I don't really like to use, but it's hard to avoid. What is normal, anyway? The best definition I've heard is "a setting on your washing machine". Normal is an agreed upon narrative that we often aspire to, but that doesn't really exist. It makes us feel safe -- like we're on the right… Continue reading Our Normal

Can She?

When we talk about Ruby's Aniridia, there are times the conversation drifts to what Ruby can and can't do -- and, most of those times, the focus seems to drift to can't. The same seems to be true when I think about other kids with disabilities -- the focus staying on the DISability, not the ability. The way Ruby's… Continue reading Can She?